There is beauty in being transparent.  

I’ve been told that I wear my emotions on my sleeve. If I am feeling something, I don’t even have to say it, because you can see it on my face and see it in my body language. If you ask me a question, I will answer honestly and probably give you too much information. Perhaps I shouldn’t say ‘too much’, just more information than most people would give. I’m brutally honest, and not ashamed to be open. What you see, is what you get. This has allowed me to have some extremely close and successful connections with people that appreciate these qualities, but has also caused a lot pain. There have been many times when I have tried to reign in my transparent personality, and it just flat doesn’t work. What I have come to realize (finally) is that when you feel as though you need to reign in your authentic personality, you are in a situation that you are trying to force. When you try to force something to fit, it never works. Its silly to think about, how we try to force ourselves to fit in at work, in friendships, relationships, but if you can’t get your pants over your hips, what do you do? You simply move on to another pair! It doesn’t mean you are happy about it, but you don’t have a choice! Life is not always as cut and dry as not fitting into a pair of pants, but my point is that, the sooner that we allow ourselves to be transparent and really accept who we are as individuals, the easier our lives will become.

I think that people assume that to be transparent, you have to share every aspect of your life with the world. To me, being transparent means that you have nothing to hide, not that you openly share personal problems and events with everyone that comes your way. Determining what you share, is a personal decision. There are no rules, it has to be what works for you!

So, go with your gut, say what you mean, mean what you say.

At the risk of sounding cliché, DO YOU, BE YOU!

Why “We need to talk in person” should be a welcomed statement, not a feared statement.

We’ve all been there. Staring at your phone, not wanting to believe the words that you are reading. Relationships and friendships begin and end, important family news is announced etc. all while we hide behind the glowing screens of the latest version of our smart phones. It seems like communicating face to face has become a lost art.

While we have the potential to use technology to enhance our ability to communicate, more often than not, we allow it to hinder our ability. Countless arguments ensue because we, as human beings have difficulty sensing the tone of the text message, or the email. Is the sender angry, sad, do they have any emotion at all? Successfully communicating is difficult enough, without the added pressure of trying to figure out what the sender really meant. Why do we continue to allow this to affect our relationships, when we know damn well, what the outcome is? Imagine if we took the time, to meet with the person that we care about to have a conversation about what was on our minds, instead of stringing it out through a week’s worth of emotionally draining text messages and emails? I know, easier said than done. That would take effort and we are all used to having the world at our finger tips and receiving instant gratification.

We now have the ability to schedule our fights and awkward conversations whenever it is convenient for us, from the comfort of our own homes without any human contact whatsoever. About to have a potentially painful conversation? One sec, let me throw on some sweatpants, grab a glass of wine and get cozy in my bed first (that is my personal favorite). Don’t get me wrong, I love technology, probably more than I should, but I am willing to admit that there are certain times when we need to revert back to the old days, and communicate in person. See the persons face, read their body language and acknowledge a human reaction to the information that is being delivered.  Tears will be shed, awkward laughs will be had, and most importantly, respect will be gained. So, the next time that someone reaches out to you and says “We need to talk in person….” embrace it, try not to panic and be grateful that they are making time to see your face.

 

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